Per usual, Danielle LaPorte nailed it.
"... When you can detach your identity and self-worth from the size of your goals, you can see your heart’s vision. It may be wildly ambitious. It might actually be very simple and sweet. (The simple goals often take you the deepest into your self.) When you know that your soul is the steady power source, and that ambition is for play — you can choose to go big, or go home, and be fulfilled either way."
I am so all about this. Its the only way I'm not imploding with life right now.
Sweet and small goals. What will make me happy in this moment?
Not 25 clients, but one I can really support and help expand.
Not a New York Times Best Seller, but a new blog post.
Not a stadium sellout yoga teacher, but a regular practice where I learn and grow with a community.
Not a raw gluten-free vegan (labels suck anyway), but a green smoothie for breakfast, and an occasional croissant with a soy cappuccino.
No rules or expectations. No guilt or judgement. No pressure or panic. Moment by moment decisions that allow me to feel in control, yet free. Grounded and safe. Taken care of. Joyful. Loved.
When life feels too heavy. When you feel fear, anxiety, indecision, and discomfort. That is the time to get small. The big picture can tell us a lot. But it can also paralyze us with its panorama.
Ask yourself what you can do in that moment to feel safe, secure, happy, supported (or whatever your warm fuzzy is).
If you were a child, what would you do for yourself in that moment? If you were babysitting yourself and a tantrum came on, how would you make it all better?
Do that thing.
Then take a deep breath. Express compassion (not excuses - there is a difference) for yourself. And then move on to the next moment, feeling calmer, stronger, and in control.
How can you be present in the scary and sticky moments?
What are the ways you know how to comfort yourself?
What internal dialogue can support you when life gets too big?
Would you like support and a safe space to share?
Do you have trouble making decisions or sticking to goals when life "gets in the way"?
Tell me. I am here for you.