It is about creating a lifestyle and NOT committing to a means to an end for temporary change.
Can I get an "AMEN!"? How brilliant and beautiful is that? THAT is what it is all about in my opinion. And it is my goal for us all.
She has made many wonderful changes over the last 6 months that support that idea. I am honored to have been a part of that process.
But is it worth it?
This next idea has been coming to me in different ways during the last month, and during a client session I was inspired with the perfect way to articulate it:
Think opportunities NOT obstacles.
Whether it is human nature or cultural influence, we have a tendency to dwell on the bad, focus on what isn't working, and simply go through the motions, while wishing things were different. This is easy because it is comfortable. It is routine. It is familiar. However, it doesn't yield results and it definitely isn't fulfilling. It can be downright depressing and it is why so many of us seek material goods or comfort food to light us up.
So, we have to make choices (yay free will!). We choose to exercise or not. We choose to meditate or not. We choose to say "Thank you" to a stranger, to gossip at work, to gift a compliment, or to complain about our first-world problems.
The beautiful thing is; everything that we think is an obstacle, is actually an awesome opportunity.
Don't believe me?
Scenario 1: January 1st you decide to give up all processed sugar. You arrive at work and see a beautiful cake celebrating a colleague's birthday. This isn't an obstacle to your new goal. This is the opportunity. This is the moment where you make a decision for yourself. This is where you move beyond instant and temporary gratification to a bigger high. This is where you prove to yourself that your happiness is bigger than a slice of cake. This is where you are proud for recognizing yourself worth and making an invest in your health and well being. Sure, it only one piece of cake, but these small decisions added up are what create our experience on this planet.
On the other-hand, there is also the opportunity to eat the cake, take responsibility for your decision (don't blame it on being stressed/tired/PMS/the event, etc.), recognize the fact that that it doesn't serve your bigger goal, allow yourself to enjoy it, and move on with you day. Your next meal is the opportunity to make a better, more informed decision. Our perspective is EVERYTHING.
Scenario 2: You've committed to more exercise. You've been drinking more water, eating more vegetables, and then you realize you have multiple work trips scheduled in the next month. Obstacle? Or opportunity? You can take advantage of the free fitness center in the hotels. You can go for a jog in a new city and explore in a much more efficient way then Yelp. You can invite your aunt or colleague to join you for a walk after dinner, or a yoga class before that 10am meeting.
Acting as the Creator and not the Victim in your life is an ownership over your ability to create opportunities out of all obstacles and will empower your every move. It is an awesome shift that will have you thinking and feeling differently.
First, simply notice. Pay attention to your internal dialogue, any automatic responses, and reactions. Then allow yourself to create space around your impulses and decisions. Practice pausing before grabbing that third cookie, saying "yes" to another happy hour with unlimited wings, or deciding to skip yet another workout. The last step is to allow yourself to be amazed. Allow yourself to be proud of your choice. Surprise yourself with how you can step up to a challenge. Experiment. Learn. Grow.
This is a practice. It is the lifestyle cultivation I spoke of at the beginning of this post. It happens minute by minute, hour by hour. Be grateful to not only be along for the ride, but to be in the drivers seat.
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