"Should" is one of my least favorite words. I don't even know why it exists or who the jerk was that invented it in the first place. If you had to define it for someone whose first language wasn't English, how would you?
Say the word aloud to yourself in a sentence. How does it make you feel? Guilty? Inadequate? Frustrated? Like a failure?
So why do we use it?! Why do we lean on passive language that holds us back and makes us feel bad?
We are full of nothing but great potential. Allow your language to reflect that.
When you hear yourself think it or say it, simply re-frame the statement. For example:
"I should go to the gym today." ---> "I will feel accomplished if I go to the gym today."
"I should call my mother." ---> "I will make time on my lunch hour to call my mother."
"I should bring my lunch to work." ---> "Bringing my lunch to work gives me energy and saves me money."
If it isn't something you want or believe in, then don't "should" it in the first place. The only person you have to take care of, impress, or please, is yourself.
Our internal dialogue and the words we choose to express our thoughts and feelings have everything to do with how we show up in the world. They are the difference in acting as the Creator or the Victim.
Stop shoulding all over the place. Take ownership. Take action. Accept yourself as you are and encourage yourself to make changes that serve you and your goals.
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